The truth behind the sarcasm…[short but to the point]

I’ve been sarcastic since I could remember…

But why? I use sarcasm to hide my true feelings, or to hide how I truly feel about something.

Joking around, laughing and cracking jokes are my way of hiding from the truth. Hiding from my feelings, hiding from showing that yeah…my feelings are hurt…what you said did hurt my feelings, I do actually care.

I know, it’s not good to hide your true feelings blah blah blah…but we all have unhealthy coping mechanisms, right?

I feel as though this somewhat “unhealthy” coping mechanism is better than some of the things I could be doing to deal with my feelings of pain etc.

I know this post was very short, but I haven’t been feeling super motivated to write blogs, plus school is stressing your girl out…Promise I’ll be back soon!

With love,

Your tea supplier,

Tese xoxo

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Ready…Set…kick butt?

I know, I know…It’s been a LONG time since I posted. There’s honestly no excuse, so I’ll spare you all.

Today I wanted to talk about how I plan on killing this semester, it’ll be my first semester in grad school!!!! Crazy right?! I’m just as excited as you guys are to begin this journey…While excited I am also nervous…Why? Because I’ll be in a new place, with tons of new people, and GRAD SCHOOL AHH!!

But I have faith in myself, and anyone else who will be beginning a new journey this fall. Okay, enough chit-chat…Let’s talk about how we’re going to KICK BUTT come this fall semester!

  1. PLAN PLAN PLAN
    • I’ve always tried my best to plan out everything, but if we’re being honest…It didn’t always work out. So this semester, I have decided I am going to bullet journal! I’m going to not only have a pen and paper version, but also a digital version on my iPad pro! I’ll definitely be posting updates about planning and if you guys would like to give me any tips on planning/ bullet journaling, definitely comment below!
  2. minimalism.
    • Okay, please don’t quote me on this one…But I am going to give minimalism a try! I believe it will help make my life a lot less difficult, I’ll have less clutter, less things to worry about which will give me more time to focus on what’s important (SCHOOL!). Ps. I’ll let you guys know how successful this minimalism thing goes.
  3. Ask for assistance.
    • If you know me, you know I honestly like to do things on my own, I don’t really like bothering people for help including professors, but this semester I will definitely be asking for help…As soon as I need it, that way I am not super behind (speaking from existence).
  4. MORE self-care.
    • I already participate in self-care activities, but I could definitely be doing more to take care of myself, so beginning today I am going to be super focused on self-care! If you guys would like me to make an in-depth self-care post let me know!
  5. KICK BUTT
    • We’re all going to be focused this semester, focusing only on the important things, and most importantly, we’re going to kick some butt!

 

WE GOT THIS!

Until next time,

Your tea supplier,

Tese xoxo.

 

 

 

 

Get out that funk!

It’s been 15 days since I graduated from college…

I should be excited and full of life, right?

Wrong…instead, I have been struck with a bad funk…

And I need to get out of it, NOW.

I’ve spent the last week and better just laying in bed, being depressed…but that is all about to change today.

I have all my aromatherapy stuff with me, I have my salt lamp turned all the way up.

I am about to play the perfect playlist, do a face mask and reclaim my peace of mind.

I will spend some time in nature, take some pictures and just enjoy life…Because you only get one life, and it’s short.

My challenge to you is to get your life!!! It’s not always easy, but find those things that will help you get through this things called life.

Let’s be happy!

Until next time,

Your tea supplier,

Tese Xoxo

why social media is such a problem

Often I find myself getting annoyed with social media…Social media is supposed to be a place to share moments with friends and loved ones, a place where people should be able to be themselves, a place where we should be safe or at least feel safe. But instead it is something so terrible I have considered letting it go all together. You can’t get on twitter, Facebook etc. without seeing a negative comment–whether it be a racist comment, sexist, trans-phobic, homophobic, etc. Don’t get me wrong, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but when you take that privilege and use it negatively, it’s not okay.

Instead of using social media for good things, people decide they want to use it for irrelevant things like “clout”, it’s 2018, clout is only going to get you so far, if it even gets you somewhere. People also like to use social media to show how “woke” they are, I do not care how “woke” you are…if you’re not using that “woke-ness” for something useful, you’re pretty useless. STOP trying to be something you’re not.

Social media has turned into this terrible place where people are constantly trying to out-show each other, trying to see who has the most clout, trying to see who is the best looking couple, things that just do not matter…nothing that is going to help them progress in life at all.

People love to take to social media to complain about how the world is so bad, how this needs to change, how that needs to change….But complaining isn’t going to change a thing, how bout you take that energy and try to help your community? It’s not that hard people.

And if we’re being honest, social media is not the best place for your mental health…there have been multiple times where I’ve had to exit out of apps to keep myself sane…There are many people who have even taken their lives due to social media….Something’s gotta give.

I could go on and on about how bad social media is…but this would turn into an entire novel so I won’t hold you guys up…

What’s your least favorite thing about social media?

Until next time,

Your Tea Supplier,

Tese xoxo.

Stop killing yourself for happiness

I HATE when people tell me to smile(I know I have a nice smile..Sometimes I just choose to not share it), or ask me what’s wrong…or ask me why I look angry, when in reality…I’m fine…I’m not mad, happy, sad etc. I’m simply just here and in my opinion, that’s much better than me being sad or angry.

Many people (including myself) try entirely too hard to be happy…You don’t have to be happy everyday, it’s okay to not be okay…it’s okay to have bad days…You don’t have to be happy if you don’t want to be, and don’t let anyone pressure you into being happy either.

Don’t let people make you feel bad when you’re having a bad day …I’ve witnessed first hand people making others feel bad or crazy because they’re having a bad day…It happens to all of us, so why judge?

If you don’t want to smile 24/7,don’t. If you don’t want to go to that party that your friends asked you to go to, don’t. If you no longer want to go out to dinner with someone, don’t. Don’t feel pressured to do things that you do not want to. If it’s not in your heart to do said thing, don’t. And once again…don’t let anyone else make you feel bad for not wanting to do it.

My challenge for you this week is to be aware of your mood, and also to not be afraid to say no.

Until next time,

Your tea supplier,

Tese xoxo

 

 

State of the black female and mental illness

It’s hard enough being black in America…add on being a female, with mental illness? Good luck.

Too often our peers don’t take the time to figure out exactly what’s going on with us…they just assume we’re “crazy” or “losing our minds” or even worse…think we’re making it all up.

I’m here to let you young women (and men), black, white, whatever your race…shape, size etc. that IT IS OKAY. It’s okay to not have it all together. It’s okay to have an off day. It’s okay to not know your next step.

Everything takes time, and once we let go of expectations and stop beating ourselves up, we open our eyes to what’s for us. We open our minds to new things, we see that the world expands farther than we’ve ever gone…we see that we can indeed succeed, and that we will be our best selves. It all just takes some time.

I know it feels like nothing is going your way right now…but it’s going to be okay. Take some deep breaths, cry, take a nap…whatever it’s going to take for you to realize that you are worth it, and your time is on its way.

Be at peace.

Until next time,

Your tea supplier,

Tese xoxo

This too shall pass.

Sometimes you can really try your hardest…and still manage to fall flat on your ass.

You can either stay down, and be upset…or you can get back up and try again…

And just because you get back up and try again doesn’t mean you’ll succeed…But you’re already closer than you would be if you were still on the ground.

Still not convinced?

Take it from me…

I’ve experienced plenty of failure in my life…Legit failure…Like F on a test type failure…But i’m still here…Here to tell you that it’s okay…I know you want that 4.0, you want that perfect score…yada yada yada…But you can’t let that be the death of you.

And don’t let your peers make you feel bad about your failures, because we’re not all the same…If I would’ve learned to not pay attention to my classmates comments a while ago, I would be in a better head space…But here I am, accepted into graduate school…But still not feeling good enough because it’s not medical school and because it’s not a well known school.

Take it from me, comparing yourself to others is not worth it. Save yourself some pain and self-hate…Focus on you, do your best…take your time…You’ll get where you belong when it is your time.

You can either be miserable because you’re constantly comparing yourself to others, or you can be grateful for everything you’ve gone through…everything is a lesson.

This week my challenge to you is to take your time.

Until next time,

Your tea supplier,

Tese xoxo